Every good relationship has a reacher and a settler, one person reaches for someone out of their league and the other person settles for someone below theirs.
A Reacher is the ambitious one, the one who seeks to make people say “huh, na jazz he/she use” or something mild like ” he’s a lucky guy” or “she’s a lucky girl.”
And the settler, he or she could have more than she’s getting but she’s settling because love is blind, deaf and dumb. Love rids us off our brains.
There are some close calls where it’s hard to say who is really reaching or settling because they seem like an even pair. The rule of Settler and Reacher always applies to every relationship, it’s as old as creation postulated 762 AD by sapondiculos(if you just believed this last sentence , then you’re a gullible human being) but back to it, in tight calls, behavioural patterns tell the difference.
Here are a few; The reacher is way more worried about if the other is cheating.
The reacher is first to update on Facebook about the new relationship .
The reacher calls more often andsand more I love you. By now you get the story.
It’s left to wonder? Why is this important ? What does it change? Honestly, I really don’t know. I could make up some dumb reason in a bid to sound smart but I really don’t know. It’s just some information to have when there’s nothing to talk about between you and your significant other.
So, for the fun of it, ask yourself are you reaching or settling in your relationship?
