I really need wise counsel and will try to make this post as short as possible
My girlfriend and I have been together since 2015. I left Naija in 2017 and since then, our relationship has been more of long-distance except for the one time I came back. While I truly love her and wish to marry her, there are some things that are giving me concerns and I would like to hear other people’s perspective:
1- When I met my girl in 2015, I was an unemployed graduate wrapping up my NYSC. She was a fashion designer/Tailor and didn’t have any formal higher education (University Level).
2- Fast forward to 2021, I am a consultant in a Fortune 500 company and have grown so much in any measurable aspect of Life.
My girlfriend is still a fashion designer and not too long ago, I helped her get a shop in Lagos and Have been sending her steady allowance (at least an average of 40-50k a month).
Here are the things that have given me a lot of worries:-
1- I know everyone will not get a formal education, and I am fine with that, but my girl has not been hustling/pulling her weight in her chosen career despite my extra support….
I sometimes get the feeling that all she wants is to get married and get comfortable, but I want an industrious woman. Formal education or not, I want a woman that can hussle!
2- Recently, I pretended to be unemployed because of Coronavirus just to see if she would send me some money (even if it’s 10k) or really, anything she can afford. Looking at the fact that I had always supported her month after month, I wanted to see if she would do the same for me.
I pretended to be unemployed for almost a month and did not receive any form of financial support from her. Even when I directly asked her to loan me small money, she would play it off by saying something like “I go write you check for 1 million sef”.
I am thinking of breaking it off at this point by slowly letting her go but before I do that, I want the perspective of people here.
Please, no insult! I am genuinely seeking your insight. Be kind!
PS. My family are doing really well, and I support anything they do. I have never neglected my family in any way, shape or form.
